If had a few words of wisdom to offer a younger me, what would they be?
I sit here with a smirk on my face knowing you will tuck this advice into your heart while turning to pave your own trail. But no worries, you will spend plenty of time beating yourself in the head with it when things blow up in your face and you’re trying to pick up the mangled pieces of reality.
No hard feelings. We are still working our way through this particular character flaw.
Just part of our charm.
Regarding people. Just know they are broken too. You won’t find your value in their approval. Work hard to uncover the dreams you have buried deep in your heart. Understand that you will walk through periods of time when you can do no wrong. You will be surrounded by many. But also understand there will be moments when you must walk alone in the midst of choices deemed unpopular by the “in” crowd. This does not change your image, your value or your purpose in God’s plan. It just means you have been redirected from a path you either weren’t meant to take, or stay upon. No big deal. Just keep your eyes on God. He will take care of the destination.
Take the time to care for your body. Exercise. Value nutrition. But don’t place too much value on what the scale says. Don’t fear food. Allow it to fuel your body. But don’t run to it for comfort. Only God can offer the peace you so desire.
Say your feelings, don’t stuff them.
And no matter what they tell you, sugar is not evil. God created it. Just use it in moderation and you are good to go! Same applies to chocolate. And coffee. But not onions. Onions are still evil.
Value the people you are given in life. Be intentional in building relationships. You’re not super great at this. You worry that you will be found lacking in some way. You’re afraid to let others too close. They might see something that will cause them to turn away or be disgusted. I’m still not sure why that is. I’m sure counseling would work it out, but seriously, who has the time.
Here’s what I know. God’s power is made perfect in your weakness. Allow your quirkiness to shine. Embrace your sense of humor. Allow those who cross your path to have a place in your life. Allow them to see under the hood. Because the truth is, they’re quirky too. And when you allow yourself to love others with the same love you have been given by Christ, those awkward dispositions won’t be such a big deal. You will begin to see the beauty of God’s most precious creation- His people. You will embrace diversity. You will find the person is always more important than the problem threatening to cause division. Love covers a multitude of sins, but you can only love the people you take the time to know.
Let them love you, too!
Your marriage will have growing pains. And, since you married so young, you might have more than most. Let them happen. Grow. Your guy is the best. A bit of an adrenaline junky which keeps you on your toes. Spoiler alert- He is still HOT!
Perceive everything you have as a resource. Your time. Your talents. Your money. Your physical possessions. Everything. And use it all to the glory of God. Hold nothing back.
You know those days when you rush into church, hit the bathroom doors and take a deep breath of contentment, grateful that you are in the house of God. Knowing you will experience his presence in moments. Expectant to be refreshed and refilled for all the week ahead will bring.
This is how I envision heaven.
I hope to approach the throne of God with nothing but expectancy and the knowledge I have given everything I had to further his kingdom purpose.
Humbled to be used.
Exhausted from the journey.
Ready to enjoy the king in the fullness of his glory.
I’m sad to say we are still a long way from fulfillment of that dream. You’re still a work in progress. I heard some great advice in church on Sunday. Stay humble and stay hungry. If there is nothing else you can take away, just do that. Stay humble and stay hungry for God. Just don’t stop. So long as you wake up in the morning, keep going.
On the days you are feeling old, tired and used up?
Thank him anyway.
These days usually occur right before God performs his greatest works in your life. Embrace the moment and lean into him for the strength & wisdom you need to persevere.
You won’t regret it.
Always remember your life is not a mistake. Learn from every circumstance. Embrace every opportunity. Don’t spend too much time looking back. Love freely. Give generously.
A couple of housekeeping items:
- Rachel hates last minute move in’s. Soften the blow with a grande skinny caramel macchiatto.
- If your missing something, ask Madi. This especially applies to shoes, electronic devices, car keys and your wedding ring.
- Too much coffee before breakfast makes your heart race.
- You need at least two hours after you first cup of coffee to be fully ready for people.
- You’re a dog person.
- You need to invite Jon & Aimee over for a cookout. Soon.
- When opting for sugar-free, go with caramel.
And, for emergency purposes, always be able to locate the nearest bathroom and Starbucks.
This blog links up to Suzie Eller’s #LiveFree Thursday!